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20 Week Bumpdate || Half way!!

Saturday, July 15, 2017
Yayyy!! I'm excited to finally start posting about my second pregnancy and the difference I feel and SEE between Peyton and this little girl. So first of all the first trimester up until 18 weeks was full of constant nausea and fatigue, I would literally fall asleep on the couch with Pey on my phone or ipad next to me. Hey I would prefer another method but it's survival, I really felt like I had to sleep to survive! Needless to say I was reconsidering my want for having 3 or more children but I'm glad the decision was made for me! For those who don't know, since we are having another girl ( Which I really wanted ), we will eventually have to try for a boy to keep his family name going. Rod also has no boys in his family besides him and I may or may not want a little mamas boy too.



Now on to the bumpdate, I decided that for some of them it would be fun to keep the first pregnancy answer under the question to see what is different, so you will notice a 1st pregnancy and 2nd pregnancy title before the answer. Here are some bump pictures from the beginning till now 💕


Not much of a difference between 8 weeks & 12 weeks except my tan! (right after our Maldives Honeymoon)



It's weird how different angles make you not look as big as you think because when I look down I feel a lot bigger! Here's another angle just for fun...oh and my belly button has been out since week 8!



How Far Along?  

20 Weeks, 5 Days
 
Total Weight Gain?   

So far 8 lbs, which seems to be right on track with my last pregnancy ( gained 16 total) so this time I'm not as worried. Don't ask me how because the baby is measuring about a week bigger but it definitely has to do with the nausea for the first 16-18 weeks and the heat of summer time that makes me want light foods like salads, veggies and fruit! 

Maternity Clothes?  

Um ya I was in these like 9 weeks into pregnancy, the all to familiar uncomfortable feeling of having any sort of pressure on my lower abdomen was back very early. A long with a lot of other things that I will get into at the end of my post.

Gender?  

A second baby girl!!

Cravings?  

I could seriously copy and paste everything I wanted first pregnancy right here. All I want is fruit and salads with lots of avocado. This pregnancy however I have been craving bagels and cream cheese as well as banana and peanut butter sandwiches...everyday. I DON'T want anything to do with pasta, especially after throwing it up on our honeymoon. And anyone else going from "hmmm I'm starting to get hungry" to "FEED ME i'm gonna die!" in less than 10-15 minutes?? Because that's me, I HAVE to eat something every 2 hours or I risk dry heaving, so crazy how empty you feel!

Miss Anything? 


My how my response has changed since last time! I miss having motivation and energy to want to work out or really do anything, no but seriously, I do fun stuff but I really wanna just lay on the couch with my feet up eating a Paletas ( those who know...know). 

Baby Brain? 

2nd pregnancy: 
Hmmm...where do I begin?? Forget about making sense anymore because I rarely do. Trying to remember ANYTHING is just like winning the lotto, It will never happen but you always think it might be different this time ( As I walk out of the diaper aisle, forgetting I just told myself I needed diapers). Lists are my best friend, if I can remember to write them down or even rememeber what I needed to write down in the first place. Guys, its bad. I kid you not, we just pulled out of the Wells Fargo to deposit and got down the street when I exclaimed "we didn't go to the bank!". Then I remembered, as my husband looks at me with a great deal of concern. 😂

1st pregnancy:
"Ok so this could also go under "best moment this week" but it's only considered funny because I got lucky!!! First I didn't pay the parking meter in LA, on 3rd street, on a Sunday for over 2 hours!!!! And I got no ticket!! This is truly a rare event and complete blessing!

Second, is reallllly embarrassing and very bad. I was in such a rush at the next spot I went to that I left my keys in the ignition and car unlocked.....yaaaa I know. It's bad. Sooooo I'm getting close to losing my driving privileges haha."


Exercise?  

2nd pregnancy:
Not working out seems to have just become a part of my life since the first pregnancy, my workout is my crazy toddler and building a human ✌

1st pregnancy:
To be honest I've had such a hard time with exercising my entire pregnancy. I'm normally at the gym 3-4 times a week not including Pilates and yoga sessions. Yes I know it's good for you and helps you a lot during birth but I can't get the motivation or the energy! It doesn't help that since hitting the third tri, I've started getting nauseous again,  headaches and moments of losing my breath. Fun stuff. 

Symptoms? 

All my symptoms I'm just gonna go ahead and throw in the "real talk" section...

Mood?  

I go through waves of feeling overwhelmed and emotional, I don't really have the feeling of guilt yet. If you don't know, a lot of moms start to feel guilty about having another child or child of the same gender because they don't want to feel like they are replacing the current child or not sure how they will love that much. I'm hoping I don't go through that because I'm just over here worried about how I will have enough energy for two social fire signs! I'm a water sign, surrounded by fire! lol.

Baby Movement? 


2nd pregnancy:
Im hoping this means that this little girl will be a lot more chillax because she doesn't move nearly as much as her big sister did. I still felt movement at the same times but she will not let you feel them on the outside!

1st pregnancy:
When is she not moving?! Peyton moves EVERY hour and has hiccups 3 times a day. Haha it's really cute. Seriously though, even my doctor says she is extremely active, the first kicks I felt from her were at 14 weeks!! Rod felt her kick at 16 weeks, and we even have a video of a crazy kick outside my stomach at 17 weeks. She's a muscle baby for sure! 

Best Moment This Week?  


Pey coming up during these photos and hugging and kissing her baby sissy!

Looking Forward To? 

2nd pregnancy:
Reading the last response, I am now wondering if breastfeeding will be different and if I will go as long as I did with Peyton. I do know that I will be using bottles a little more so I can keep my sanity with having two kids! Then again I say that now.

1st pregnancy:
As weird as it is to say, I'm really looking forward to breastfeeding and having that skin to skin closeness. I've been dreaming about being a mom since I was a toddler, with my set of quince dolls, so I'm looking forward to every thing about being a mom!

Real Talk?

2nd pregnancy:
Ok so my real talk from the last post during the first pregnancy was crazy to read since I went until 22 months before weaning. Don't get me wrong though, I would've had no problem breastfeeding through pregnancy and continuing but (and this is where the real talk starts) it got sooooo awkward! Moms say that they were too sensitive or it was too painful and I always figured I would just tough it out, ya definitely not. It wasn't a matter of toughing it out and I in know way believe breastfeeding is a sexual thing but when you get pregnant the sensitivity doesn't even cover what you are feeling. I literally couldn't stand to breastfeed anymore, all the normal sensations had come back and I couldn't have her latch for more than 5 minutes before I was just too uncomfortable. I'm thinking not every mom feels that way because for me it was impossible to continue past 12 weeks pregnant, whereas other moms go through the entire pregnancy! 

Anyway, now that I've said my piece on that subject can we talk about how everything gets fuller, bigger and harder so much faster!? From your boobs to your Who-ha, everything gets swollen fast and also very tender! There are even spots on my tummy that feel bruised depending on the babies position, anyone else get that?

Lastly, this has been bugging me and I have been trying to figure out how to say it without giving the wrong impression. If you ask a soon to be mom if they want a girl or a boy and once she answers, you say "well as long as they are healthy, that's all that matters". Why even bother to ask? This has really become my pet peeve because OF COURSE all we want are healthy babies, they are OUR babies! But we shouldn't need to feel shamed or need to feel bad just because we like to think about if it's a girl or a boy. Don't ruin the excitement! And don't ask what we would like, if you intend on saying that after. I even find myself answering the question and then quickly saying "but I just want a healthy baby over anything else". I shouldn't need to feel like I am already being a bad mom by answering your question by saying what I've always dreamt of having. Is it just me?

1st pregnancy:
I'm kinda bummed that we are so behind other countries when it comes to breastfeeding. I'm going to push/hope for a year of breastfeeding (with solids incorporated obviously) but don't understand why we think it's weird to breastfeed longer, I see nothing wrong with it if it's just at night before bed especially. No I'm not a mom that wants my child with teeth running up to me and pulling down my shirt but I could only see benefits of incorporating it still after a year. Anyway, no judgements either way but it's been on my mind! 

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Alright so I feel like I had a lot more to say this pregnancy! Any one else have pet peeves? I hope some of you can relate and I'm excited to keep updating every month. Time is flying by so I'm trying to soak up both my growing toddler and this growing pregnancy. 💕  Stay tuned for a post on how I weaned and sleep trained!


2 comments on "20 Week Bumpdate || Half way!!"
  1. Thank heavens I have you for when I eventually go through pregnancy! You will be my Yoda! That pic of you and Pey at the end is to die for by the way.

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    1. Haha! I would love to be your yoda...and thank you!! I'm for sure framing it 😉

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